Guest post on Texan in Tokyo: “Jealousy in cross-cultural relationships”

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Last Monday, newly-wed Grace from Texan in Tokyo has published a guest post from me on her blog. Grace writes thoughtful and engaging articles and her blog includes a wide range of topics (that sometimes come in the form of comics) covering life in Japan, long distance relationships and two recent favourites of mine: “My Big, Fat Texas Wedding” and “The Emotional “Cost” of Blogging: The not-so-secret downside to writing about your life on the internet”. Check out her blog if you don’t know it yet. In my post, I write about jealousy in my relationship – or the discovery of a feeling I didn’t really know from the past:

I’ve never been the jealous type of kind. That is, until I met my Chinese husband, Y. Well, I still wouldn’t say I’m a jealous kind of person, but in the first year of our relationship I have found myself feeling jealous from time to time. Jealousy has been quite a new feeling for me. I have always been one to say that if you trust somebody, there’s no need to be jealous.

So where did my jealousy come from?

I trust Y. I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t. So that’s not the problem. The problem was lying somewhere else. A feeling of jealousy crept up my chest on occasions where I saw Y joking with Chinese women.

This is only an excerpt. Click here to read the rest of the post.

Have you ever been jealous? Why or why not? I’d love to read your comments.

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Hi, I'm Ruth, welcome to China Elevator Stories! I have been living in Kunming and Shenzhen in the past and am now staying in Northeast China with my Chinese husband and our baby and toddler son. Join us on our journey bridging worlds!

1 comment

  1. We forget how divisive language can be. Some French-speakers in Quebec, Canada, want their own country. Wars have been fought in Europe over language.

    I know how it feels to stand on the sidelines when I don’t know the language being spoken. I’m glad your husband is so patient and understanding. I’m sure you’ll be the same with him in Austria. Still, it’s not easy.

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