Hong Kong

“Look at China, being considerate of pregnant women”

It’s April 2014 and I’m 7 months pregnant. One Saturday, my husband and I go to Hong Kong. Before we arrive at the border building in Shenzhen, we come by two public restrooms. In front of both, there’s a really long line of people queuing up….

Cherries

“Pregnant women can’t eat Chinese hawthorn”

It’s April 2013. My husband and I go to the fruit shop. The combination of pregnancy and a recent rise in temperatures in Shenzhen brings about hot flashes for me. I’ve been craving melons for the last 2 weeks. We choose a melon, put it…

pregnant 9 months

“You’re going to have a boy!”

One day, a co-worker says to my husband: “It seems that your wife only eats sour dishes. You’re going to have a boy!*” *Chinese gender prediction says that if you’re craving sour dishes during pregnancy, your baby is a boy. Craving spicy dishes would…

“You have to be nice to your mama”

One of my co-workers who has just recently given birth herself sees me sitting in front of my desk. Like out of the nowhere she appears in front of me, starts stroking my belly and talking to the baby: “Hey…

“You should have a baby boy”

In February 2014, one of my former co-workers who just had a baby girl stops me in my tracks: “Let me see your belly.” After looking at it, she concludes: “It’s really big. You’re wearing quite sexy clothes. You should…

“How come your belly is that big?”

One day in December 2013 I’m at work. One of my female coworker points at my belly and asks: “How many months are you pregnant?” I: “2.” She (seemingly shocked): “How come your belly is already that big with only…

“Oh my god, I’m going to be a father!”

After getting to know that I’m pregnant and in the time before the first ultrasound, my husband is anxious. The doctor has told us that we have to monitor the progress and that chances are the egg would nest in…

Men not allowed to enter

One day in mid-November 2013 my husband and I go to a women’s and children’s hospital. We haven’t been to this hospital before, but after having been sent to do a blood sample every third day, we have decided to…

“Sharing the same room”

After seeing the results of the pregnancy test and telling me that we need to monitor the progress, the doctor tells me: “There are three things you need to avoid: ‘Lifting heavy things, falling down and sharing the same room’*.”…

A cure to my menstrual problems

One day in mid-October 2013 I go see a Chinese doctor at a TCM hospital. I’ve had some menstrual problems I want to treat, so I go to the gynecological department. The doctor prescribes me a mix of herbs, ear…

“What are you doing to get pregnant?”

One day one of our co-workers treats us to dinner after work. The reason? He recently became a father and it’s tradition in China to treat your friends and co-workers to a nice big meal once your child is 100…